To build confidence, it takes time. It doesn’t automatically come up for overnight. I understand your social problems, you’re not the only one that has been through what you’re experiencing. It’s actually normal, to be honest. I wish you could see how beautiful you truly are, I know it’s unoriginal and recycled to say “you’re beautiful” but it is true. You will always be you, just remember no one can top that. Just keep continuing to take care of your hair, body, treat yourself once and a while. Change your hairdo, go out with friends, listen to music, do your makeup for once, all of these things are fun ways of growing the confidence that can make you a better you. About the boy problem, keep your head up, don’t let anyone catch you slipping. Plus, boys love confident girls, that’s the first thing that catches their eye. You are unique, don’t let anyone tell you different. Train yourself to be the best. The days where you sat around and felt sorry for yourself are over, now you have to transform into that beautiful person you have been hiding all of this time. I hope some day you notice that you have been the best all along and it’s just your mind/overthinking that was keeping you back from achieving your goals.
I see a lot of people struggling with weight problems, which is devastating. Not everyone is happy with the way they look but we still have people on here that point out each and every one of someone else’s flaws. Just know that what goes around comes back around, each time you make someone’s flaws obvious, the same will happen to you one day. I’m tired of other people calling others “ugly”, “fat”, “disgusting” etc. It’s disgusting itself. I don’t know how someone lives with themselves saying that to someone else. It hurts a lot of people and to whoever who has been a victim of hate somehow, use that hate to fuel a better you. Use it to mold a better person, think more positive, use it to motivate you. Any person always saying those bad comments to you just want you down with them, which only means you are above them. You are not “too skinny”, you are not “too fat”, you are not “ugly”. You are beautiful, but I’m also tired of “everyone’s beautiful” because it is not effective at all. You are stunning. If you think you need to lose weight, just motivate yourself to exercise. Search up some foods that will be okay for your diet. If you think you need to gain weight, just be patient and eat with a little bit more appetite. Don’t change because someone else feels like you need to. They are not you, don’t make other’s comments define you. You are stunning, beautiful, gorgeous and all those flaws you have can be changed. So what if you are a little chubby or anything like that? That could change as long as you motivate yourself to. You have acne, almost everyone does, you can change that by washing your face more and caring for it more. Make yourself a better person, be better than you were yesterday. You are growing more beautiful each and everyday, do not down yourself like you are nothing/worthless. Because you will never be worthless in this world. Thank you for reading!
My advice to anyone struggling with being self conscious and having self esteem issues is to be patient. Sometimes I see people wish they had a certain body or hair or face structure, whatever it maybe, just be patient. If you work hard enough and set goals for yourself, maybe you will have the body you always dreamed for or the luxurious hair you wanted for a long time. The worst time of my life was when I was in middle school, I was surrounded by girls that always took every guy in sight. They had perfect skin, already well developed and already wearing makeup. Boys didn’t even pay me any mind, they made fun of me a lot. Now, it’s the other way around. People treat me differently, I get compliments from both genders etc. Boys actually like me and some ask for the digits. It’s funny how you get from the ugly duckling to people actually seeing you differently. What the moral of the story is, you will be that beautiful person you always wanted to be. I used to walk around with no confidence at all because people always put me down so much to the point where I couldn’t carry myself normally. I would avoid all human contact to avoid being hurt again. You’re beautiful the way you are, you’re growing up as well. Patience is key and there will be the ends to all bad morals. Things change.
Well, I think the people that bully you are just annoying people that don’t know what is beautiful to be honest with you. It’s sickening and annoys me the most how someone can’t walk anywhere without being judged by. They will receive their own karma because what goes around will always come back around and sooner then later, they will feel the side effects, so don’t worry about peasants lower than you. If you’re kind of chubby, embrace it. You don’t have to be a size zero to be under the category of beautiful. If you start treating yourself in a good way, you will see how beautiful you really are and always have been. The same thing happened to someone I know, my older sister. She was always annoyed by my dad to lose weight and now recently my dad said that she’s nice and slim now. Moral of that story is, your goal, you will reach it if you try hard enough. She did and she has the body of her dreams. She transformed from a chubby girl to a slim, nice figured woman. Just remember, if you want to achieve your goal by losing weight, you have to be determined and don’t be lazy. By that, you have to research good exercises and good meals to eat. Other than that, love your body. Don’t worry about what others think of it because it’s your body, not theirs. Your body is good the way it is and if you want to change it, be determined. Your goal to losing weight isn’t impossible.
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That is a really tough one, but I’ll try to give you what I can. I just hope your baby is happy and healthy when it’s born. Since you have a new life coming into this world, you have to shape yourself into a responsible young woman. I also want you to give your parents their condolences as well. I want you to care for your baby and yourself during this time. You can’t erase what’s done in the past. So you have to make the best of it. Care for your baby like it’s worth the world, you are about to be a mother. At such a young age, my number one advice for you is to also stay in school. That’s a lot coming from me since school is not something I like too much but it doesn’t matter. School is what guides you into new doors when you’re suppose to be on your own. I hope this helped you kind of. Always remember to care for yourself!
It’s not a stupid problem, actually. I think it’s a normal one. I felt like that before but it all changed. And it will for you, just know that you won’t feel lonely forever. You will find someone that will like you for you. Most people are not comfortable with talking to boys first, which is understandable and completely normal. I am not comfortable with telling boys I like them either. If you like a boy, try to be friends with them and that will build up a bond that you will have enough to be comfortable around each other. Your flaws will be beautiful to the next person. Don’t worry about it because your flaws make you stronger and actually beautiful, even if you don’t feel it. You truly are! But seriously, there will be a boy. Just because a boy doesn’t approach you now doesn’t mean a boy doesn’t like you. I mean, a boy might like you and is too shy to approach you also, the same way you feel. Keep your head up, gorgeous ;)
You are already beautiful, in reality there will be people always trying to put you down only because you are above them. You will have the body of your dreams if you put your mind to it. I remember in middle school, both sexes would tease me for my looks. It was an awkward phase. But now I treated myself differently, carried myself and grown more. Now, in high school, I get a lot compliments by both sexes, random boys asking for my number, OLD MEN IN THE STREET ASKING IF I HAVE INSTAGRAM, this week I passed by this guy and he just said “Beautiful”, etc. Moral of the story is everyone will have their own awkward phase. The more rough you have had it in the past, the more you appreciate the present. You are beautiful already, if you have a problem with your weight, there are so many opportunities to lose weight.
Well if you’re thirteen, do not expect to have humongous boobs. Your body is still developing which is the truth. If you still want them to grow, try eating a lot of foods with carbs and try massaging it everyday. Those are two techniques that will work. But if you’re still thirteen, boobs getting bigger shouldn’t be your goal. Your body is still developing ;)
Love you more!
Well, the people that make fun of you will get what they deserve sooner or later. It’ll come back to them in the most horrible way ever, so do not sweat on that one. Besides, I can’t even process the fact on why someone would actually make fun of such a thing. Just know that you’re not crazy, I think your mother just wants you to have some certified guidance. I’m sure you are hurting right now, but know that cutting yourself will never be the solution. I can’t automatically stop you from cutting over a computer screen, but I’ll do anything that it’ll take. The scars all hold memories, just remember that. The best thing for you is being positive, positive energies will help you to make positive decisions. Having the scars will interfere with that. You are better than cutting and you deserve everything good and loving for you not harming for you. Treat yourself like gold, because you are worth more. Leave all the bad memories behind, all of it is just more fuel to make you a better person than you were a day ago.
I think the people that are saying it’s going to get better are right :) It’s horrible that you have to deal with criticism on your weight no matter what age you are. No one and you do not deserve that. All I want you to do is not cry, do not feel sorry about your natural body. I wish you would have the strength and in order to have some, you have to think positive throughout the day. Always stay determined, do not slack off. If you want a better you, it has to start from your mind first. You can make it, if it was impossible it would not be possible. Meaning, if you couldn’t possibly hit your goal, your goal would never exist. Try to search up some exercises, lean foods to start eating, different techniques. My older sister who is now twenty one went through the same thing when she was younger. People would pick on her and call her chubby but watching her when I was younger, she would always run up and down the stairs, eat healthy but good tasting foods and she has been so determined and focus on it. Now, she’s not picked on, she’s living a wonderful life in her dorm right now with the body of her dream! You’re beautiful and I hope you feel slightly better from this.